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Is she fulfill his wildest dreams?

2008-03-31T05:21:00.000-07:00

Many men share in the same general sexual fantasies: three women in a hot tub, three women in your bed, three women enjoying each other shamelessly on a deserted beach where you just happen to be taking a stroll, and the list goes on.

Threesomes

This fantasy is often hard for a woman in a relationship to swallow: "So you want to invite another woman into bed with us, do you?" she says. “So I’m not sexy enough/talented enough/thin enough for you, huh?” she may think. Even imaginary play friends can be threatening for your female companion, so you really need to make sure that there is a good deal of mutual understanding and trust (and erotic adventurism) between you before you bring it up.

It can be fun to bring an imaginary woman (or man) into bed (i.e. telling a fantasy story involving up-close-and-personal details to turn you both on). But bringing a real person into your shared intimate zone poses some very real and dangerous problems. Even if she does agree, nut it out properly first -- it is highly likely, statistically speaking, to be followed by an ugly breakup.

Anal sex

Many men are denied anal sex by their female companions on some very legitimate grounds: It can be very painful, uncomfortable, messy, and did I mention painful? This doesn’t stop you from wanting it, obviously, so fantasy may well be your next best option. Anal sex is also much loved by many women, and it is on these grounds that she will probably be a wee bit curious; "If she can like it, then I should be able to too."

Anal sex is a fantasy she can easily fulfill -- if she chooses to. She is unlikely to be offended by you sharing a fantasy of this kind because rear entry is a well known and "common" sexual antic. It is no longer considered taboo, and therefore the only reasons she probably won’t do it are practical and/or imagined hygiene and comfort complications. Promises of plenty of lube and going slow and gentle will help (you may need to barter here, use what you can -- let her have access to your butt, perhaps a hot air balloon ride, a nice dinner at expensive restaurant or foot rubs for a week… you get the idea).

Watch her masturbate

Knowing that you would really enjoy watching her bring herself to orgasm gives her a great deal of power, and she would, of course, love to please you. But, revealing herself like that in front of you is a big step for any gal. If you want her to do this, then sharing your fantasy with her is an excellent way of "suggesting" she actually do it. A good method to start her off is to prompt her while you are actually having sex. It is easier if she is facing away from you and her clitoris needs stimulating -- take her hand and hold yours over it on her clitoris, and then she can set the pace and you follow suite.

After a while, take your hand away. She may or may not keep her hand there, but very gently insist it and be sure to show your extreme appreciation -- she won’t want to spoil your fun! This should develop into her feeling much more comfortable touching herself in front of you, and one day -- maybe -- she will give you the whole shebang. Don’t be forceful, and if she is showing signs and symptoms of being uneasy, don’t push it -- don’t even mention it again, because one day she might just decide to loosen up all by herself.

Watch her with someone else

This is an interesting one, and one she isn’t likely to understand, but neither will she feel threatened by it. It is something she can get her head around -- she is the one with someone else, not you -- and therefore she will probably be interested in exploring it further -- in your imagination, of course. This other person could be a man or a woman -- whatever takes your fancy -- and only involves complete and utter voyeurism.

This actually happening is unlikely unless you really, really, really want to do it, but even then she probably won’t ever agree. It is the sort of thing that may turn a man on rather than a woman, and for this simple fact it's probably not going to ring her bells to any significant degree. Unless you’re both into swinging or other "sharing" activities, watching your girlfriend getting screwed by someone else is highly unlikely to ever happen to you in your lifetime, unless you walk in on her by accident.

Doesn’t qualify you as a sex addict

2008-03-31T04:58:00.000-07:00

Sex addiction can involve many different sexual antics; it may be a strong desire to have sex, masturbate, watch porn or flirt. A person is defined as a sex addict when his behavior gets out of control and starts to have a negative impact on his life. These feelings and behaviors cause a great deal of shame, hopelessness and confusion for the sex addict. These feelings are also normally accompanied by denial, despite it being an unmanageable problem in the sex addict's life.

Sexual addiction takes up a great deal of energy, and you know you’re in trouble when your behavior causes relationship breakdowns, job problems, legal issues, and a loss of interest in anything non-sexual. If you suspect you have a problem, read on for some signs that you might be a sex addict.

Note: Understand that there is a big difference between a creep and a bona fide sex addict, so being a general pervert or filth monger doesn’t qualify you as a sex addict. Being a sex addict means your sexual desires are significantly impinging on your life in a negative way -- which does not include being unable to pick up, by the way.

You’re leading a double life

Do you have an extra girlfriend or mistress? Do you regularly cheat on your partner? Do you keep your sex life a secret from those around you? Leading a double life for sexual gain can be a sign you’re a sex addict. It is true that many people (men and women alike) cheat on their partners, but a compulsion to do so is abnormal. Keeping your sex life a secret may also point to a problem: Why don’t you want to reveal your activities? When you know that what you are doing is wrong but you can’t seem to help yourself, you have a problem.

You frequently seek out sexual material

A preoccupation with all things sex can lead to a very narrow existence. When you constantly and consistently only seek out media that is sex-related, this might be a sign you’re a sex addict. We are not referring to the average guy who enjoys watching the occasional porn, looking at photographs or reading sex articles; it refers to the guy who is always seeking out sexually related material to the exclusion of most other things. It could also include a preoccupation with things like adult dating sites; perhaps you are not being very productive at work because you are desperately seeking Susan/Sarah/Savannah.

Are breasts sexual?

2008-03-30T07:35:00.000-07:00

Breasts are just a part of the "whole package" that makes a woman. Obviously they are beautiful, feminine body parts, yes, but the mere looking at them in some everyday context shouldn't make men instantly think about sex.

We are not saying that men can't appreciate woman's breasts as feminine and beautiful body parts, or that man and woman can't enjoy touching each other's bodies during the intimate relationship. We are saying breasts are NOT supposed to be some kind of a "turn-on", a special obsession point for men.

The advertisements and media images play to the idea that men are supposed to be "all ready" the instant they get a flash of a breast. It's not men's fault though, if they think so, because they have been culturally conditioned to see it that way. So on this site we hope to fight back against this sad trend.

We're saying let breasts be like legs and hips and neck and face etc. and all the other body parts - not some almost like inanimate objects that automatically 'click men's brains' to the "turn on" mode. Some people mention to us Song of Solomon, which mentions breasts in a sexual context. BUT it clearly places breasts on the same level as other body parts, such as teeth, neck, and hair.

‘If I want you in my arms

2008-03-30T07:20:00.000-07:00

Chances are, you had a sex dream this week. Fully eight percent of
our dreams involve sexual situations, according to a new study from
psychologists at the University of Montreal in Canada.

Interestingly, women have just as many sex dreams as men, with one
important difference: Men are far more likely to have fantasies about
sex with imaginary people, while women dream about current or past
sexual partners, as well as celebrities,

“Men used to report many more sex dreams, twice as many as women, and
we don’t find that difference anymore,” . “Either women are having them more, or
they’re more likely to report them. Either way, it’s interesting. “

Even though sex dreams are very common, psychologists haven’t paid
much attention to them. For this study, the team asked 109 women and
64 men ages 20 to 89, all of whom responded to an ad about the
research project, to keep a diary of their dreams for as long as one
month. The total number of dreams exceeded 3,500.

What do we dream about?

– The most common sex dream involved sexual intercourse, followed by
flirting, kissing, fantasies and masturbation.

– Four percent of sex dreams among men and women resulted in an
orgasm.

– 18 percent of women’s sex dreams involved unwanted sex, compared
with just five percent of men.

– Nine percent of sex dreams among women and five percent among men
involved fantasies about celebrities.

– Men were far more likely to dream about having sex with more than
one person.

– Four percent of women’s dreams featured a partner having an
orgasm. None of the men reported this dream.
if you dream about something, it probably
occupies your waking thoughts as well. “If the sex dreams tend to
involve unknown or fantasy characters, it is probably a reflection of
your waking state, that your desires and fantasies are with
strangers,”

Are you in Love or Lust?

2008-03-11T07:49:00.000-07:00

It's so difficult to tell. So what do you need to know to ensure you've got it right?

Lust

You know how it feels. You probably don't care why it feels that way. You're just loving it. But you do care about not falling for your partner purely because you lust after them.

Lust is integral with the first part of any sound intimate relationship - it's the infatuation (or romance) stage. But maybe you're now questioning, 'Am I really in love with them, or is it just lust?'

The problem you face, if you're asking this question from within that first part of a relationship, is - it's almost impossible to work out the answer once you're in it!

Ideally, you'd have worked out well before you start dating anyone who you need to get with in order to be truly compatible. If you haven't done that then I suggest you need to do it now.

Why is this important?

Because the difference between a relationship that turns into love and one that ends at lust is compatibility.

Lust is all centred around your 'sexual compatibility'. If your partner's face and physique fits your map of what's gorgeous, if they talk, move and communicate in a way that pushes your buttons, then you have lust. And I know how fantastic that feels!

However, if you lack the compatibility on other levels, then when the chemicals start to fade from your body, the lust will disappear and you'll be left with someone who you probably don't even fancy any more and certainly don't love.

Is it nessesory to learn the language of lovin'

2008-03-08T04:34:00.000-08:00

Women love sex as much as men do, but what's sometimes missing is the self-knowledge, and of course a skilled partner who brings out the erotic best in himself and her. If you're unsure as to whether your lover is enjoying herself during sex, there is a need for more investigation. Communicate verbally and non-verbally; ask her what she wants you to do, carefully watch and listen to her responses to what you’re doing and don’t assume that what worked for your other girlfriends is going to work for her. Every woman (and man) has different tastes and won’t necessarily respond to the same touches, so try a few different things and don’t stick to a routine. Experiment, tease, tantalize, change positions. When you hear her moan, you’ll know you've hit just the right spot, so don't stop there.

17 Unusual Book Titles

2008-03-06T21:43:00.000-08:00

Whether they intended to or not, these authors gave their books names that will make readers laugh or cringe before they even open the first page. Check out our list of 17 of the most unusual book titles.

1. How to Avoid Huge Ships by John W. Trimmer
2. Scouts in Bondage by Michael Bell
3. Be Bold with Bananas by Crescent Books
4. Fancy Coffins to Make Yourself by Dale L. Power
5. The Flat-Footed Flies of Europe by Peter J. Chandler
6. 101 Uses for an Old Farm Tractor by Michael Dregni
7. Across Europe by Kangaroo by Joseph R. Barry
8. 101 Super Uses for Tampon Applicators by Lori Katz and
Barbara Meyer
9. Suture Self by Mary Daheim
10. The Making of a Moron by Niall Brennan
11. How to Make Love While Conscious by Guy Kettelhack
12. Underwater Acoustics Handbook by Vernon Martin Albers
13. Superfluous Hair and Its Removal by A. F. Niemoeller
14. Lightweight Sandwich Construction by J. M. Davies
15. The Devil's Cloth: A History of Stripes by Michel Pastoureaut
16. How to Be a Pope: What to Do and Where to Go Once You're in the Vatican by Piers Marchant
17. How to Read a Book by Mortimer J. Adler and Charles Van Doren

How To Feel Sexy

2008-03-02T07:51:00.000-08:00

Look at your self in the mirror and say "Hi gorgeous!"

If you can't bring yourself to do that because you feel too ugly, wrinkly, fat, unkempt take immediate action that will fix it. Brush your hair, apply red lipstick, put mascara on. Pinch your cheeks. Then look at yourself again, and say, "not so bad considering I've been ignoring you." Make a vow to love and take care of you - say it whilst you stare deeply into your eyes.

Smile at every body you meet. You'll get lots of smiles back.

Be friendly to every one even those people you don't like. The reaction you get from them will be priceless.

Flirt, don't worry about any thing. Flirting will create extra ordinary responses from men - it'll make you feel good. Flirting is a fun way of showing that you are playful and responsive. Men love it. The thing here is that when you're having a rapport you can feel good even if you think you're ugly, fat or what ever. If you just let the communication happen and stop worrying about what the other person is thinking about you. Have you ever considered that they may be worrying about what you think of them?

Lay off the coffee and sugary drinks.

These are passion killers - they lift you up briefly but you'll come plopping back down. When you're down it's difficult to communicate. And not only that - being down gives you all those unsexy thoughts like: why am I so fat?, why can't I be so...? Bla bla. Rather stay in one good feeling place then go from down to up and then down again.

Eat sexy food.

For me sexy food means food that is still in it's original form. Fresh fruit and vegetables. If you believe that fresh food is causing you stomach problems then find out which ones you should mix and match. I promise you real food beats any processed or canned food.

Chocolate bars, cakes and candies are bad for you but you know that already don't you? Chocolates are only sexy when they've been specially chosen by some one special and then gifted to you. It's sexy and fun to eat gifted chocolates especially together with the bearer of the gift. It's also a grand idea to gift some body with special pralines.

Check out your wardrobe.

Are you wearing any old thing? Wearing any old thing is fine if you feel good in it but if deep inside you that any old thing is making you feel not as good as you could be go change immediately. I'm always surprised that women save their special clothes for special occasions. Every minute you are still breathing and partaking of life is special. I for one don't have special clothes I love them all and wear them all. For gardening I wear my old variation of my once new clothes.

A good tip is to wear clothes that sit well and are comfortable. If you garments are uncomfortable you'll be self conscious. For example I don't wear mini skirts or dresses because when I sit down I find I'm pulling on them to try and cover up.

Wear shoes that you can master and feel good in. No use wearing high heels that you can't walk in or give you pain - it'll distract and make you conscious of your feet instead of allowing you to be a free spirit.

Become a student of your spouse's sexual zones.

2008-03-01T04:01:00.000-08:00

One episode of the sitcom Friends dealt with the different erogenous zones. The characters were discussing sex outside the context of marriage, which, of course, we don't condone. However, the scriptwriters made an interesting point about males and females. Monica and Rachel identified seven erogenous zones. Chandler said, "You're kidding. I thought there were four." One of the women replied, "See, that's your problem. You go one, two, four. You're missing three, five, six. Oh! And toes! Seven."

A woman has more erogenous zones than just her breasts and vagina. Explore with her, and discover where she's most responsive. Kiss, stroke, or caress each body part. Ask, "How does this feel? Does it make you tingle? What would make you feel even more tingly—if I caressed less or more?" Remember that although it's good to work toward climax, the journey is pretty unbelievable too.

GIRLS SHOULD ACCEPT THEMSELVES AS A SEXUAL BEING

2008-02-23T21:31:00.000-08:00

In order for women to be sexual and enjoy sex, they must accept that they are sexual beings. If you do not acknowledge this, or deny it, then sexual pleasure and happiness cannot be achieved. A woman's hormones, to a certain degree, control her actions. When our body feels it is ready for sex, to reproduce, it tells the brain to seek out sex. When this happens, we think about sex more often and with a greater urgency, we become sexual beings. While women's sex drives are often cyclic, as the result of their menstrual cycle, they too become horny and are driven to seek out sex.

It is not unusual for a woman or teenager to complain that when she caresses her vulva and clitoris that she does not experience sexual pleasure, perhaps feeling nothing at all. A likely cause for this is that her brain is not primed for sex, which means it is not ready to process sexual stimulation. When the brain is not ready for sex, the clitoris IS just an extra piece of tissue. A woman must accept that she just cannot place her hand between her legs and automatically bring herself to orgasm. Orgasm is not just a mechanical process. For the most part it is a mental and chemical process. The brain controls the release of chemicals that make orgasm possible. If the chemicals, hormones, are not available, even mental thought may not be enough to get your body ready for sex and sexual pleasure.

ARE YOU NOT AFRAID TO BE NAKED

2008-02-22T06:10:00.000-08:00

Although the scale is a good indicator of how much you weigh, it is by no means a good indicator of how fat or slim you really are. When you climb on a scale to measure yourself, you are not simply measuring fat. You are measuring your body as a whole and that means fat, muscle, organs, bone and water — everything put together. What you eat, what you wear and whether you measure on the carpet or tile as well as the time of day can all influence the reading.
The ideal women's body shape would be one where the waist is slim and the hips are slightly wider and proportionate. Women who carry a lot of weight in their waist are at risk of heart disease and should aim at slimming down their waist.

Use the waist-to-hip ratio to determine if your body is in optimal or bad shape. To determine this, you will need to measure the circumference of your hips as well as the circumference of your waist in inches. To calculate your waist-to-hip ratio, divide your waist measurement by your hip measurement and record your score. An ideal number would be a ratio of under 0.8. Take this reading on a regular basis, such as once a week and track your score.

*THE COLOR EFFECT ON GIRLS

2008-02-21T07:46:00.000-08:00

Women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why wouldn't we be? Men who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful, constant and always there." The blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship -- someone who's dependable, momogomous and can match his own clothes.

Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with caution. "Red is the color of sex and power," Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of men - men interested in sex, and men attracted to powerful women. Sure, you'll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks, but you could also end up attracting a guy that isn't threatened by the fact that you make a bigger salary.

TRY THIS POSITION TONIGHT

2008-02-21T07:38:00.000-08:00

The Swan
The "swan" is a great way to stimulate your partner's penis and testicles when you've been roaming around his other erogenous zones. Imagine your thumb and fingers coming together in the shape of the old-fashioned shadow puppet

-- the "swan." This is great for gently clasping the testicles between the beak-like shape formed by your fingers. Gently pull them a little. Now open your fingers up again and swirl them around his inner thighs. Then stop and stroke his perineum. Next, apply the swan as an upwards movement from the base of his penis, pulling his foreskin (if he has one) gently up over his glans. If he's circumcised it is better to gently flutter your fingertips down the shaft of his penis. Now clasp the base of his shaft and gently and rhythmically "massage" the base of it, pulling upwards only if he wants that stimulation. Circumcised men vary tremendously in the degree of stimulation they need -- some have deadened sensitivity and need a much firmer touch while others are very sensitive. Always ask your lover how he wants you to touch him.

This massage technique can be used on a man or woman. Get your lover to lie on her back while you warm some massage oil in your hands. Kneel astride her thighs and lean forward, placing both hands just below her neckline and above her breastbone. Start a slow, smooth path with your oiled hands outward and down either side of her ribcage, just skimming the edges of her breasts. Now slowly and sensuously draw your hands in to meet at the navel. Pause a moment before recommencing the outward sweep of the figure "8" down around her outer hips, your hands meeting over her pubis. Gently kneed her pubis and even allow your fingers to wander over her genitals before starting the sweeping motion back up to her navel and onwards. Repeat the Erotic "8" movement as many times as you wish.

This is so named because many Thai masseuses encourage skin-on-skin contact during a massage with their clients to tempt them into asking for "extras." The Thai body massage consists of gently rubbing your naked body over your lover's bare skin. It is ideal if you are both kissing, with one lying slightly on top of the other. Rise up on your hands and gently swish your chest and abdomen over your lover's body. This feels particularly erotic on a woman's breasts?skin against skin. If you have the arm strength you may also move your abdomen and hips across your lover's body.

WHY YOU SHOULD TAKE OFF YOUR PANTY

2008-02-21T07:21:00.000-08:00

. Explore the pleasures of the senses. Touch can be a powerful sex enhancer. Loving touch causes a number of hormones to surge, including oxytocin and endorphins. Just thinking of being touched can cause an oxytocin surge, creating the desire for more. Massage is one special way of giving pleasure to your lover.

Wear sexy undies. Most women save these delights for special occasions. What would you like to be caught in if you happen to be peeling in front of Tom Cruise, Mel Gibson or Sean Connery? It wouldn't be the utilitarian white cotton bra and the rarely-matching frayed panties, I'm sure. And don't just wear sexy underthings for him. Use it to help enhance your own sexy self-image.

Share a bedtime story. And I'm not talking about Green Eggs and Ham! Read aloud to each other, or pick out your favorite juicy part and read solo.

Fantasize. Fantasy is a wonderful way to recharge your sexual "batteries." The sexier we feel throughout the day, the better -- and no doubt, more frequent -- the sex will be. Take pleasure in daydreams. Hold onto those sexy or romantic thoughts just a bit longer. Treat yourself to their sensuality. Make it part of your life. Men think about sex at least XXX times a day. This preoccupation allows a man to stay in the "ready, willing and able" mode. Priming the pump allows a woman to enjoy the quicker response time and greater spontaneity that men have always been teased about.

Lose that negative body image! Sex is between the ears. Most women place an inordinate burden on their self-esteem, due to poor body image -- and low self-esteem is not sexy. This can have a disastrous effect on a couple's sex life. Men generally are much less critical, and more accepting of their partner's bodies than they're given credit for. Nothing is more captivating to a man than a woman who feels sexy and acts with sexual confidence, regardless of her perceived imperfections.

AMAZING SEX POSITION

2008-02-21T07:16:00.000-08:00

These great sex positions will make your love life stronger (and potentially put out your lower back, so please make sure you're paid up on your health insurance before you try them).

Ken and Barbie style - Neither partner is allowed to bend at the elbows or knees.
Doggie style - The man attempts to do the impossible.
Froggie style - Male and female partners in large spa. Male attempts to fertilise female using only the water as a transmission medium. For couples who don’t like each other much any more.
Fish style - same as Froggie style, but neither partner may use their arms or legs.
Mummy and Daddy Love Each Other Very Much, And Hug Each Other in A Special Way style - The only position in this list you won’t be embarrassed to tell the kids about when they're five.
Style style - Sex with a Vogue Living editor.
Crouch position - Each partner crouches down on the ground, then simultaneously leaps up, and attempts to couple whilst in mid-air.
Couch position - Same as the crouch position, but starting at opposite ends of the living room couch.
Ouch position - Usual outcome of the crouch position.
Lazy Susan style - Susan goes to sleep.
Russian style - Partners queue for hours for enough vodka to make each other look attractive.
Nostrodamus sex - Any encounter that comes as a complete surprise.
Osama Bin Laden’s position - If you know this position, please contact the FBI for your $25 million reward.
Bank style - Screw the customers.
Missionary position - Each partner kneels and prays.

TRY SEX FANTASIES FOR GIRLS

2008-02-02T05:02:00.000-08:00

Sex life feeling a bit stale? Well, there's one sexual organ most people neglect: the brain. And it's your passport back to Sexual Nirvana. Literally millions of us secretly use fantasies during masturbation, and some of us use them to achieve orgasm during sex. So why not own up to your favourites and act them out with your partner for what could be the lustiest sex you've had in years?

Fantasy 1: He's a virgin - and you're Mrs. Robinson
Why it appeals to you: It's a power game and 'forbidden' sex for both parties, which is always a guaranteed libido-lifter. What you'll need: A 'sexy secretary' outfit works for this one: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings and high heels.
The action plan:
The trick to this one is to move very slowly at first. You're seducing him, and he's struggling - torn between ripping off your clothes and worrying about the consequences. (What will his mum say if she finds out? Is she really seducing him or is he reading too much into it?) Say you're going to make a drink for each of you, then lead him into the lounge with your drinks. He sits on the sofa, you sit on a chair opposite, crossing your legs and hitching your skirt up high. He's not sure where to look. Make general chit-chat (the sort of stuff you'd ask your son's friend, if you have/had a teenager), then take the conversation to another - saucier - level. Tell him you don't think your husband finds you attractive anymore. Ask him, Does he think you're attractive? What bits? Why? Let him squirm with embarrassment as he tries to be diplomatic - and tries to hide his erection.

At that point you say, You seem a little uncomfortable and move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch. Loosen the first two buttons of his shirt and rub the back of your hand against his exposed chest saying, Such soft skin. So unlike my husband's. As he squirms, undo the top few buttons of your shirt, take his hand and place it on your breast. Ask him if he likes that.

In between your lurid requests and actions, keep making small talk. Ask him if he's ever made love to a woman before. He'll squeak out a no. Ask him if he'd like to make love to you, and tell him it's okay - you won't tell. Ask him to take off your top and your bra. Tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how you like to be touched. Moan and sigh, but remember: You're still the grown-up - so not too out of control. Ask him to stand up in front of you and unzip his trousers. Admire his body, compliment it, say how hard it is, then give him exquisitely tortuous oral sex - stopping just short of orgasm.

THE MYTH ABOUT BOYS

2008-02-02T04:54:00.000-08:00

Myth. Sex produces instant adulthood.

Facts. In their desire to become adults quickly, some adolescents believe that engaging in adult activities (sexual intercourse, smoking, drinking alcohol, driving, etc.) will make them adults. With sex, it leads to two bad effects. It may push teenagers into situations they do not want — romantic commitments, pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases. On the other hand, if teenagers feel these activities have actually made them fully mature, it may inhibit their growth and development in other areas.

Myth. Sex means love.

Facts. Young women are more likely to believe that love and sex go together. Teenagers may feel sexual advances indicate love and commitment and are very disappointed when this is not the case. Or they may feel that love (which is not necessary for sex) will be an inevitable outcome of having sexual intercourse. Young people often believe that if you have sex with someone, he or she will be more likely to love them. While it does happen at times, it more often leads to feelings of disappointment and possibly betrayal.

Myth. "No" means "Yes."

Facts. Many guys feel that they must take advantage of every sexual opportunity to prove their masculinity. In addition, they believe that most women who say "no" really mean "yes." As a result, "date rape" is very prevalent, though most cases go unreported.

In fear of offending the man, some women may actually smile while saying "no," giving him conflicting messages. Others find it extremely difficult to openly say "no" and wind up in passively squirming and retreating without saying anything. The most effective and assertive response to an unwanted sexual advance would be to say, "Although I like you, I definitely do not want to have sexual intercourse." This does not damage the fellow's ego, and it indicates her wishes clearly and firmly.

Myth. I can't get pregnant.

Facts. Typically because of guilt feelings about sex, many sexually active teenagers make no (or inadequate) attempts at contraception. This myth is based on the lack of factual information plus the use of denial (unconsciously refusing to see a stressful situation) as a defense against anxiety. As may occur with driving, drugs or pregnancy, many adolescents have an illusion of invulnerability. Although it may happen to others, "it won't happen to me." In contrast, some unconsciously want a pregnancy — as proof of maculinity or femininity, desire for adult status, revenge toward parents or a former lover, or a fantasy that a baby will fulfill their need to be loved.

Myth. Condoms allow no feelings.

Facts. Many sexually active teenagers are resistant to using condoms (rubbers) for birth control. This is primarily true for those who have never used condoms. The younger boys listen to the older boys, mimic their words, and come to believe that "real men" are not supposed to like condoms. The reality is that they detract somewhat from the man's physical stimulation, but not from the woman's. However, anything that is perceived psychologically as unpleasurable (including condoms) can reduce the satisfaction in any interaction. Even so, this relates more to expectations of the situation rather than the physical effects of the condom. As an added feature, the latex condom (used correctly) is the best protection against sexually transmitted diseases — including AIDS — outside of abstaining from sex.

TO BE RICH OR POOR - THE MATTER OF THINKING

2008-01-21T04:29:00.000-08:00

Rich people believe, " I create my life". Poor people believe, "Life happens to me"
Rich people play the money game for win. Poor people play the money game to not lose.
Rich people are commited to being rich. Poor people want to be rich.
Rich people think big. Poor people think small.
Rich people focus on opportunities. Poor people focus on obstacles.
Rich people admire other rich and successful people. Poor people resent rich and successful people.
Rich people are bigger than their problems. Poor people are smaller than their problems.
Rich people are excellent receivers. Poor people are poor receivers.
Rich people choose to get paid based on results. Poor people choose to get paid based on time.
Rich people focus on their net worth. Poor people focus on their working income.
Rich people manage their money well. Poor people mismanage their money well.
Rich people have their money work hard for them. Poor people work hard for their money.
Rich people act in spite of fear. Poor people let fear stop them.
RIch people constantly learn and grow. Poor people think they already know.

OUTERCOURSE - THE ALTERNATIVE SATISFECTION

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Types of outercourse

thumb|right| Mammary intercourse, a form of non-penetrative sex.

Axillary intercourse, where a man rubs his penis in another person's armpit, also known as bagpiping.
Fingering, stimulating vagina or anus with the hand
Frot, penile-penile rubbing between two males
Frottage, any form of consensual sexual rubbing, whether naked or clothed
Handjob, stimulating genitals with the hand
Foot job, stimulating male genitals with the feet
Intercrural sex, also known as Interfemoral intercourse, where a man places his penis between the partner's thighs
Mammary intercourse, when a man rubs his penis between a woman's breasts
Mutual masturbation, rubbing of the genitals
Nipple Sucking, oral stimulation of the male or female nipples.
Oral sex, using the mouth on another's genitals, though some definitions exclude oral sex as a form of outercourse due to disease risk ^[1]
Sumata, type of stimulation of male genitals popular in Japanese brothels.
Tribadism, vulval-vulval rubbing between two females, also known as "scissoring"
Virtual sex, mutual masturbation at a distance with the aid of technology

A number of BDSM activities do not involve penetration. However they are not generally considered under the same heading, possibly because they involve their own special risks or possibly because they are not substitutes for "having sex".

DO FOREPLAY FOR BIGGER ORGASM

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For guys, use the same thing for your female partner. For instance, if you're planning on stroking her clitoris, the more time you spend caressing, massaging her whole body without touching her clit, the bigger the orgasm is going to be when you finally do touch her clit. Tease, tease, tease. Run your hands close to her clit and vagina but don't touch them directly. Do this for as long as you can. If she begs you to touch her clit or tries to drag your hand down there, don't. Don't give in. Tease her more.
So, here's a breakdown:

foreplay, kiss, caress, massage
brush your hands near her clit / labia / vagina but don't touch them directly
massage hips, inner thighs, belly
keep doing this for some time
if she begs you to touch her clit, don't
don't give in
if she tries to drag your hand onto her clit, don't
keep teasing and teasing and teasing
finally, after lots of teasing, start stroking her clit

Every moment you delay contact with her clit makes her more aroused. The more you tease, the more worked up she'll be, the more her genital area will fill with blood, and the bigger her orgasm will be. More teasing = bigger orgasm

Seduction tips for grown-up boys . . .

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1. Get in the bath together: it helps to separate work from play and wakes up her nerve endings, too.

2. Set the scene: dim the lights, play some music she likes, change the sheets – hide the dirty laundry and your BlackBerry.

3. Kiss her how you used to on your early dates: put your hands in her hair, hold her face, and take your time.

4. As you undress her, (and DO undress her) tell her how much you love her body. Be specific! “And this is my favourite part . . .”

5. Don’t go straight for the boobs! That’s for teen boys and men who take their wives for granted.

6. If she has trouble being selfless in bed, blindfold her with your tie so she has no choice.

WHAT IN YOUR DREAM

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Each dream is a mixture of our biological instincts, our cultural assumptions and our own personal experience. As we dream, our brains create stories from these ingredients, sometimes to "replay" recent events, and at times voice concerns that our waking minds are not yet ready to face. These stories are occasionally laced with complicated plots, and sometimes populated with elaborate visual or verbal puns that help us unlock their meaning.

The meaning of dreams is something that has puzzled humankind since earliest civilizations, and several systems for categorizing dreams exist today. Psychologist Patricia Garfield, a leading dream researcher and co-founder of the Association for the Study of Dreams, has identified 12 archetypal dreams that appear throughout the world. She describes these in her book, The Universal Dream Key (Cliff Street Books, 2001). Each of the types has a negative variation and a positive variation.

Click on the dream description that best matches your own to learn more about what it might signify and how to unravel the meaning of your dream.

I am being chased	I am being embraced or loved
I am injured, ill or dying	I am being healed, born or reborn
I am having car or vehicular trouble	I am having a pleasurable experience with a vehicle
My house or property is lost or damaged	My house or property is improved
I fail a test or perform poorly	I excel on a test or in a performance
I am falling or drowning	I am flying, swimming or dancing joyfully
I am naked or inappropriately dressed in public	I am well dressed
I have missed a boat or a plane	I am traveling happily
A phone or machine malfunctions	A phone or machine works perfectly
I am in a natural or manmade disaster	I experience natural beauty or miracles
I am lost or trapped	I am discovering new spaces
I am being menaced by a spirit	I am being guided by a spirit

What do Transsexual Women Want?

2008-01-08T03:13:00.000-08:00

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, for one thing, to be treated as people and as women, not as perverted oddities or sex toys. Comparing a transsexual to someone born male or female is insulting, whether you do it to her face, or behind her back in conversation with your barroom buddies. So is public speculation about "What they're like," especially if you've never even met one and all you know came from watching pornography. You wouldn't treat your boss or your mother like something to be conquered, used up and thrown away, would you?

Discretion is not just the better part of valor, it's common courtesy. If you've ever been publicly outed for being a gay man or bisexual guy, then you know how humiliating -- even dangerous -- it can be. For a transsexual female, it's worse. In transition, she has to build a whole new life, from her socks to her sex, including how she presents herself. It's hard to blend in without being spotted, And, especially in the early stages, the whole thing can be blown apart like a house of cards with one wrong word. So do unto others what you'd have done unto you.

Now we come to "commitment," the infamous "C-Word." This is another difference between men and women. Men tend to play the field, and many will sleep with whomever and whatever they can, whenever they can. The aim is to prove one's manhood by scoring as often as possible without getting caught.

Being the nurturing souls they are, women want something different. They want the emotional security of a stable, monogamous relationship with a man who will stick around for while; not one who vanishes away, sometime between when she falls asleep and wakes up alone, the next morning.

SEXUAL HELP YOURSELF

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Different kinds of touch

Masturbation can be all the more satisfying if you vary the ways in which you touch yourself. Choose a time when you can be alone, relaxed and comfortable, and lie back and run your hands over your body. Try strokes, caresses, nips, pinches and gentle scratches.

No one is born knowing how their own body or anyone else's responds to sexual stimulation. You have to learn by trial and error. And since everyone's different, the only way of finding out how to please your partner is to learn from them. It's also common and normal for adults in happy relationships to feel like pleasing themselves at times.

Taking your time

Concentrate on areas that particularly excite you, but try not to stimulate only the most obvious bits. You're likely to bring yourself to orgasm by stimulating your penis or clitoris, but it will be more arousing, and your climax more satisfying, if you explore as much of your body as possible.

Try this

Masturbation can feel so much better if you introduce contrasting sensations. Try stroking yourself slowly with:

hands covered in oil or cream
a feather
fake fur
a silk scarf
a body brush
a sponge run under hot water, then under cold

LEARN SEX FANTASY

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Find out what turns you on. Then with the help of relaxation techniques, lie back and allow your mind to build your personal favourite.

The most common male fantasies include:

having sex with an existing partner
giving and receiving oral sex
having sex with more than one person
being dominant
being passive and submissive
reliving a previous experience
watching others make love
trying new sexual positions

The most common female fantasies include:

having sex with an existing partner
giving and receiving oral sex
having sex with a new partner
romantic or exotic locations
doing something forbidden
being submissive
reliving a previous experience
being found irresistible
trying new sexual positions

MAKE FUN OF BOYS PRIVATE PARTS TOO-GIRLS

2007-11-28T04:48:00.000-08:00

When a boy's disgusting private goes inside of a girl's shameful unmentionable, there is a serious risk of it breaking off and causing excruciating pain while it travels throughout your body like a giant trichinosis worm.

Up until the moment in your wedding when he says "I do," a boy's privates sport a treacherous spine of jagged scales, which may or may not secrete acid and weapons-grade anthrax – for which, apparently, only Ann Coulter has developed the antibodies.

God designed a boy's privates as part sword, part battering-ram, to joyously stab and hammer you with on the magical night you begin your life-long tethering to the man who'll liberate you from the drudgery of ever having to make your own decisions – except when to have a headache or give an "I don't like this" bite.

Sexy babies: how sexualization influenced girls

2007-11-27T06:58:00.000-08:00

Clothing stores sell thongs for seven- to ten-year-old, some with slogans like “wink, wink” or “eye candy.” In child beauty pageants, girls as young as five wear fake teeth, make-up, and hair extensions, and are encouraged to flirt with the audience by batting their false-eyelash-laden eyes. The 2005 Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show on prime time television featured models made up to resemble young girls dressed in sexy lingerie. Magazines, television, and the internet abound with images portraying girls and women as sexualized objects. There is growing evidence that this sex-saturated culture harms healthy psychological development among both boys and girls.

Sexualization is not to be confused with healthy sexuality, which is important for mental and physical health. Sexualization occurs when:

a person’s value comes only from his or her sexual appeal or behaviour
a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness with being sexy
a person is sexually objectified – made into a thing for others’ sexual use
sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person

EXCITE UR BODY FROM DRY SKIN BRUSHING

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The Benefits Of Dry Skin Brushing

• Dry skin brushing helps to shed dead skin cells, which can help improve skin texture and cell renewal.

• Dry skin brushing increases circulation to skin, encouraging your body’s discharge of metabolic wastes, which greatly aids the lymphatic drainage of the entire body. When the body rids itself of toxins, it is able to run more efficiently in all areas.

• Dry skin brushing also helps to tighten the skin because it increases the flow of blood. Increasing the circulation to the skin can also help lessen the appearance of cellulite.

• Dry skin brushing stimulates the lymph canals to drain toxic mucoid matter into the colon, thereby purifying the entire system. This enables the lymph to perform its house-cleaning duties by keeping the blood and other vital tissues detoxified. After several days of dry brushing, you may notice the gelatinous mucoid material in your stools.

• Dry skin brushing helps with muscle tone and more even distribution of fat deposits.

• Dry skin brushing also rejuvenates the nervous system by stimulating nerve endings in the skin.

• Dry skin brushing helps your skin to absorb nutrients by eliminating clogged pores. Healthy,

breathing skin contributes to overall body health.

• Individuals who sit at a computer screen all day long will particularly take pleasure in the benefits of skin brushing. People who have inactive lifestyles or jobs usually experience stiff and sore necks and shoulders that reach even into their arms and down their spines and into their lower backs. Increased blood flow begins entering the areas brushed and you will experience an increase in electromagnetic energy that permits you to feel energized and invigorated.

• LADIES—Cellulite is toxic. Cellulite is toxic materials that are accumulated in your body’s fat cells as they are unable to be eliminated. So, rather than liposuction surgery, how about utilizing the “dry skin brushing” techniques coupled with an alkaline diet program and a great exercising routine. It will break down the unwelcome toxic body deposits and send them scurrying out of your body through the elimination channels we discussed above.

BENEFITS OF SEX

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Improved sense of smell: After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges. This in turn causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, its smell center.

- Reduced risk of heart disease: In a 2001 follow-on to the Queens University study mentioned above, researchers focused on cardiovascular health. Their finding? That by having sex three or more times a week, men reduced their risk of heart attack or stroke by half. In reporting these results, the co-author of the study, Shah Ebrahim, Ph.D., displayed the well-loved British gift for understatement: "The relationship found between frequency of sexual intercourse and mortality is of considerable public interest."

- Weight loss, overall fitness: Sex, if nothing else, is exercise. A vigorous bout burns some 200 calories--about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of squash. The pulse rate, in a person aroused, rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150, the same as that of an athlete putting forth maximum effort. British researchers have determined that the equivalent of six Big Macs can be worked off by having sex three times a week for a year. Muscular contractions during intercourse work the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck and thorax. Sex also boosts production of testosterone, which leads to stronger bones and muscles. Men's Health magazine has gone so far as to call the bed the single greatest piece of exercise equipment ever invented.

- Reduced depression: Such was the implication of a 2002 study of 293 women. American psychologist Gordon Gallup reported that sexually active participants whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners did. One theory of causality: Prostoglandin, a hormone found only in semen, may be absorbed in the female genital tract, thus modulating female hormones.

- Pain-relief: Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine. In women, sex also prompts production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.

- Less-frequent colds and flu: Wilkes University in Pennsylvania says individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30% higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system.

- Better bladder control: Heard of Kegel exercises? You do them, whether you know it or not, every time you stem your flow of urine. The same set of muscles is worked during sex.

- Better teeth: Seminal plasma contains zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay. Since this is a family Web site, we will omit discussion of the mineral delivery system. Suffice it to say that it could be a far richer, more complex and more satisfying experience than squeezing a tube of Crest--even Tartar Control Crest. Researchers have noted, parenthetically, that sexual etiquette usually demands the brushing of one's teeth before and/or after intimacy, which, by itself, would help promote better oral hygiene.

- A happier prostate? Some urologists believe they see a relationship between infrequency of ejaculation and cancer of the prostate. The causal argument goes like this: To produce seminal fluid, the prostate and the seminal vesicles take such substances from the blood as zinc, citric acid and potassium, then concentrate them up to 600 times. Any carcinogens present in the blood likewise would be concentrated. Rather than have concentrated carcinogens hanging around causing trouble, it's better to evict them. Regular old sex could do the job. But if the flushing of the prostate were your only objective, masturbation might be a better way to go, especially for the non-monogamous male. Having sex with multiple partners can, all by itself, raise a man's risk of cancer by up to 40%. That's because he runs an increased risk of contracting sexual infections. So, if you want the all the purported benefits of flushing with none of the attendant risk, go digital. A study recently published by the British Journal of Urology International asserts that men in their 20s can reduce by a third their chance of getting prostate cancer by ejaculating more than five times a week.

BAD THINGS BUT GOOD FOR U

2007-11-26T04:08:00.000-08:00

Beer quells heart disease and chocolate staves off cancer? Though often tagged with a disclaimer, studies that tell us to eat, inhale and generally indulge in "bad stuff" is music to our ears. So go ahead and enjoy these bad-for-you remedies--everything in moderation, as they say--until the next study inevitably overturns the research. Heather Whipps

10 Beer

The newest bad kid on the block, beer has long been overshadowed by its healthier alcoholic cousins. While no one's suggesting you switch that glass of antioxidant-rich Pinot Noir for a tall glass of lager--there's still that beer gut to worry about--new research has suggested that moderate beer intake can actually improve cardiovascular function. Now if only a scientist will discover the health benefits of ballpark franks and chicken wings. Heaven.

9 Anger

If you're one of those people who tends to bottle things up, only to explode ... don't hold it in so long. Studies show that bursts of anger here and there are good for the health, and can be an even more effective coping mechanism than becoming afraid, irritated or disgusted. Anger, like the consumables in this list, however, is best in moderation: stay angry for long periods of time and you'll be plagued with a host of health issues, like blood pressure, sleep disorders and lung damage.

8 Coffee

Java is one of the most debated substances around. Is it good for you? Is it bad for you? Both? The consensus, now anyways, seems to favor those who enjoy their morning jolt--unrelated studies claim coffee is a major source of antioxidants in our diet and can help lower your risk of diabetes. Something in the beans is also thought to ease the onset of cirrhosis of the liver and pancreatitis, good news for those who like to party hard all night before their morning caffeine boost.

7 LSD

We're definitely not in the business of advocating drug use. But check out this interesting science: In heavy drinkers, small doses of LSD have been thought to help bypass the rock-bottom stage of alcoholism and prevent relapses. These studies--some decades old--were done in closely monitored, clinical settings; many patients haven't had a drink in the many years since. It's an interesting finding that needs a lot more investigation, and not a remedy that should ever be tried at home. Meantime--and this may come as no surprise--a recent study of 36 volunteers who took an LSD-like drug in a lab setting had them reporting mystical experiences and behavior changes that lasted for weeks.

6 Sunlight

Exposure to the sun's rays is necessary to survive, but can also kill you in gross, cancerous quantities. Asthmatics, at least, could benefit from measured doses of ultraviolet rays, according to scientists. Sunlight suppressed the immune reactions that cause asthma in some lab studies with mice and could be used to treat humans afflicted with the disease in the future. And sunlight--even if indirect, such as on a shaded porch--is known to boost the mood. Extra sunlight can help office workers avoid afternoon drowsiness, a recent study found. There's still no excuse to head outside and bake, however.

5 Maggots

They're creepy, slimy and altogether ooky, but maggots can save your life. These squirmy larvae are science's newest wonder-cure and were approved in 2003 as the Food & Drug Administration's only live medical device. Placed on serious wounds, maggots mimic their "wild" lifestyle and munch on bacteria and dead tissue, stimulating healing and helping to prevent infection.

4 Marijuana

It's medicinal, we swear! Marijuana, often associated with memory loss, is ironically now being hyped as a way to stave off the ultimate form of memory loss--Alzheimer's. Recent studies on mice suggest that anti-inflammatories found in the drug prevent the clumping of brain proteins, one major cause of the disease. So when should you start preventative therapy? We suggest waiting for the human studies to wrap up.

3 Red Wine

A crucial ingredient in the diets of the world's heart-healthiest populations--like those Bordeaux-guzzling French--red wine has long been known to have potent anti-cancer and artery-protecting benefits. The key, some studies indicate, is an antioxidant found specifically in the skin of red wine grapes, called resveratrol. The latest studies even link resveratrol to greater endurance, a reduction in gum disease and Alzheimer's. White wine, which is fermented after the skins are removed, is less beneficial according to some studies.

2 Chocolate

Chocolate lovers rejoice: study after study lately has touted the magical benefits of the indulgent treat, which is packed with the antioxidant flavonols that prevent certain cancers and keep your arteries from clogging. The most recent news? These powerful chemicals may even increase blood flow to the brain, warding off dementia. Just stick to the highest cocoa content possible--the bars packed with sugar don't help your health one bit.

1 Sex

Scientists have found that the benefits of sex go beyond immediate, ahem, gratification and satisfying the goal of procreation. Besides the obvious evolutionary purposes, we can all take pleasure in the news that having sex is an easy way to reduce stress, lower cholesterol and improve circulation throughout the body. As if you needed another excuse.

BEWARE !DO NOT SAY THIS DURING SEX

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1. But everybody looks funny naked!

2. You woke me up for that?

3. Did I mention the video camera?

4. Do you smell something burning?

5. (in a janitor's closet) And they say romance is dead...

6. Try breathing through your nose

7. A little rug burn ever hurt anyone!

8. Is that a Medic-Alert Pendant?

9. Sweetheart, did you lock the back door?

10. But whipped cream makes me break out

11. Person 1: This is your first time... right?
Person 2: Yeah... today

12. (in the No Tell Motel) Hurry up! This room rents by the Hour!

13. Can you please pass me the remote control?

14. Do you accept Visa?

15. ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

16. On second thought, let's turn off the lights.

17. And to think- I was really trying to pick up your friend!

18. So much for mouth-to-mouth.

19. (using body paint) Try not to leave any stains, okay?

20. Hope you're as good looking when I'm sober...