Is she fulfill his wildest dreams?

Many men share in the same general sexual fantasies: three women in a hot tub, three women in your bed, three women enjoying each other shamelessly on a deserted beach where you just happen to be taking a stroll, and the list goes on.

Threesomes

This fantasy is often hard for a woman in a relationship to swallow: "So you want to invite another woman into bed with us, do you?" she says. “So I’m not sexy enough/talented enough/thin enough for you, huh?” she may think. Even imaginary play friends can be threatening for your female companion, so you really need to make sure that there is a good deal of mutual understanding and trust (and erotic adventurism) between you before you bring it up.

It can be fun to bring an imaginary woman (or man) into bed (i.e. telling a fantasy story involving up-close-and-personal details to turn you both on). But bringing a real person into your shared intimate zone poses some very real and dangerous problems. Even if she does agree, nut it out properly first -- it is highly likely, statistically speaking, to be followed by an ugly breakup.

Anal sex

Many men are denied anal sex by their female companions on some very legitimate grounds: It can be very painful, uncomfortable, messy, and did I mention painful? This doesn’t stop you from wanting it, obviously, so fantasy may well be your next best option. Anal sex is also much loved by many women, and it is on these grounds that she will probably be a wee bit curious; "If she can like it, then I should be able to too."

Anal sex is a fantasy she can easily fulfill -- if she chooses to. She is unlikely to be offended by you sharing a fantasy of this kind because rear entry is a well known and "common" sexual antic. It is no longer considered taboo, and therefore the only reasons she probably won’t do it are practical and/or imagined hygiene and comfort complications. Promises of plenty of lube and going slow and gentle will help (you may need to barter here, use what you can -- let her have access to your butt, perhaps a hot air balloon ride, a nice dinner at expensive restaurant or foot rubs for a week… you get the idea).

Watch her masturbate

Knowing that you would really enjoy watching her bring herself to orgasm gives her a great deal of power, and she would, of course, love to please you. But, revealing herself like that in front of you is a big step for any gal. If you want her to do this, then sharing your fantasy with her is an excellent way of "suggesting" she actually do it. A good method to start her off is to prompt her while you are actually having sex. It is easier if she is facing away from you and her clitoris needs stimulating -- take her hand and hold yours over it on her clitoris, and then she can set the pace and you follow suite.

After a while, take your hand away. She may or may not keep her hand there, but very gently insist it and be sure to show your extreme appreciation -- she won’t want to spoil your fun! This should develop into her feeling much more comfortable touching herself in front of you, and one day -- maybe -- she will give you the whole shebang. Don’t be forceful, and if she is showing signs and symptoms of being uneasy, don’t push it -- don’t even mention it again, because one day she might just decide to loosen up all by herself.

Watch her with someone else

This is an interesting one, and one she isn’t likely to understand, but neither will she feel threatened by it. It is something she can get her head around -- she is the one with someone else, not you -- and therefore she will probably be interested in exploring it further -- in your imagination, of course. This other person could be a man or a woman -- whatever takes your fancy -- and only involves complete and utter voyeurism.

This actually happening is unlikely unless you really, really, really want to do it, but even then she probably won’t ever agree. It is the sort of thing that may turn a man on rather than a woman, and for this simple fact it's probably not going to ring her bells to any significant degree. Unless you’re both into swinging or other "sharing" activities, watching your girlfriend getting screwed by someone else is highly unlikely to ever happen to you in your lifetime, unless you walk in on her by accident.

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Doesn’t qualify you as a sex addict

Sex addiction can involve many different sexual antics; it may be a strong desire to have sex, masturbate, watch porn or flirt. A person is defined as a sex addict when his behavior gets out of control and starts to have a negative impact on his life. These feelings and behaviors cause a great deal of shame, hopelessness and confusion for the sex addict. These feelings are also normally accompanied by denial, despite it being an unmanageable problem in the sex addict's life.

Sexual addiction takes up a great deal of energy, and you know you’re in trouble when your behavior causes relationship breakdowns, job problems, legal issues, and a loss of interest in anything non-sexual. If you suspect you have a problem, read on for some signs that you might be a sex addict.

Note: Understand that there is a big difference between a creep and a bona fide sex addict, so being a general pervert or filth monger doesn’t qualify you as a sex addict. Being a sex addict means your sexual desires are significantly impinging on your life in a negative way -- which does not include being unable to pick up, by the way.

You’re leading a double life

Do you have an extra girlfriend or mistress? Do you regularly cheat on your partner? Do you keep your sex life a secret from those around you? Leading a double life for sexual gain can be a sign you’re a sex addict. It is true that many people (men and women alike) cheat on their partners, but a compulsion to do so is abnormal. Keeping your sex life a secret may also point to a problem: Why don’t you want to reveal your activities? When you know that what you are doing is wrong but you can’t seem to help yourself, you have a problem.

You frequently seek out sexual material

A preoccupation with all things sex can lead to a very narrow existence. When you constantly and consistently only seek out media that is sex-related, this might be a sign you’re a sex addict. We are not referring to the average guy who enjoys watching the occasional porn, looking at photographs or reading sex articles; it refers to the guy who is always seeking out sexually related material to the exclusion of most other things. It could also include a preoccupation with things like adult dating sites; perhaps you are not being very productive at work because you are desperately seeking Susan/Sarah/Savannah.

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Are breasts sexual?

Breasts are just a part of the "whole package" that makes a woman. Obviously they are beautiful, feminine body parts, yes, but the mere looking at them in some everyday context shouldn't make men instantly think about sex.

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We are not saying that men can't appreciate woman's breasts as feminine and beautiful body parts, or that man and woman can't enjoy touching each other's bodies during the intimate relationship. We are saying breasts are NOT supposed to be some kind of a "turn-on", a special obsession point for men.

The advertisements and media images play to the idea that men are supposed to be "all ready" the instant they get a flash of a breast. It's not men's fault though, if they think so, because they have been culturally conditioned to see it that way. So on this site we hope to fight back against this sad trend.

We're saying let breasts be like legs and hips and neck and face etc. and all the other body parts - not some almost like inanimate objects that automatically 'click men's brains' to the "turn on" mode. Some people mention to us Song of Solomon, which mentions breasts in a sexual context. BUT it clearly places breasts on the same level as other body parts, such as teeth, neck, and hair.

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‘If I want you in my arms

Chances are, you had a sex dream this week. Fully eight percent of
our dreams involve sexual situations, according to a new study from
psychologists at the University of Montreal in Canada.

Interestingly, women have just as many sex dreams as men, with one
important difference: Men are far more likely to have fantasies about
sex with imaginary people, while women dream about current or past
sexual partners, as well as celebrities,

“Men used to report many more sex dreams, twice as many as women, and
we don’t find that difference anymore,” . “Either women are having them more, or
they’re more likely to report them. Either way, it’s interesting. “

Even though sex dreams are very common, psychologists haven’t paid
much attention to them. For this study, the team asked 109 women and
64 men ages 20 to 89, all of whom responded to an ad about the
research project, to keep a diary of their dreams for as long as one
month. The total number of dreams exceeded 3,500.

What do we dream about?

– The most common sex dream involved sexual intercourse, followed by
flirting, kissing, fantasies and masturbation.

– Four percent of sex dreams among men and women resulted in an
orgasm.

– 18 percent of women’s sex dreams involved unwanted sex, compared
with just five percent of men.

– Nine percent of sex dreams among women and five percent among men
involved fantasies about celebrities.

– Men were far more likely to dream about having sex with more than
one person.

– Four percent of women’s dreams featured a partner having an
orgasm. None of the men reported this dream.
if you dream about something, it probably
occupies your waking thoughts as well. “If the sex dreams tend to
involve unknown or fantasy characters, it is probably a reflection of
your waking state, that your desires and fantasies are with
strangers,”

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Are you in Love or Lust?

It's so difficult to tell. So what do you need to know to ensure you've got it right?

Lust

You know how it feels. You probably don't care why it feels that way. You're just loving it. But you do care about not falling for your partner purely because you lust after them.

Lust is integral with the first part of any sound intimate relationship - it's the infatuation (or romance) stage. But maybe you're now questioning, 'Am I really in love with them, or is it just lust?'

The problem you face, if you're asking this question from within that first part of a relationship, is - it's almost impossible to work out the answer once you're in it!

Ideally, you'd have worked out well before you start dating anyone who you need to get with in order to be truly compatible. If you haven't done that then I suggest you need to do it now.

Why is this important?

Because the difference between a relationship that turns into love and one that ends at lust is compatibility.

Lust is all centred around your 'sexual compatibility'. If your partner's face and physique fits your map of what's gorgeous, if they talk, move and communicate in a way that pushes your buttons, then you have lust. And I know how fantastic that feels!

However, if you lack the compatibility on other levels, then when the chemicals start to fade from your body, the lust will disappear and you'll be left with someone who you probably don't even fancy any more and certainly don't love.

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Is it nessesory to learn the language of lovin'

Women love sex as much as men do, but what's sometimes missing is the self-knowledge, and of course a skilled partner who brings out the erotic best in himself and her. If you're unsure as to whether your lover is enjoying herself during sex, there is a need for more investigation. Communicate verbally and non-verbally; ask her what she wants you to do, carefully watch and listen to her responses to what you’re doing and don’t assume that what worked for your other girlfriends is going to work for her. Every woman (and man) has different tastes and won’t necessarily respond to the same touches, so try a few different things and don’t stick to a routine. Experiment, tease, tantalize, change positions. When you hear her moan, you’ll know you've hit just the right spot, so don't stop there.

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17 Unusual Book Titles

Whether they intended to or not, these authors gave their books names that will make readers laugh or cringe before they even open the first page. Check out our list of 17 of the most unusual book titles.

1. How to Avoid Huge Ships by John W. Trimmer
2. Scouts in Bondage by Michael Bell
3. Be Bold with Bananas by Crescent Books
4. Fancy Coffins to Make Yourself by Dale L. Power
5. The Flat-Footed Flies of Europe by Peter J. Chandler
6. 101 Uses for an Old Farm Tractor by Michael Dregni
7. Across Europe by Kangaroo by Joseph R. Barry
8. 101 Super Uses for Tampon Applicators by Lori Katz and
Barbara Meyer
9. Suture Self by Mary Daheim
10. The Making of a Moron by Niall Brennan
11. How to Make Love While Conscious by Guy Kettelhack
12. Underwater Acoustics Handbook by Vernon Martin Albers
13. Superfluous Hair and Its Removal by A. F. Niemoeller
14. Lightweight Sandwich Construction by J. M. Davies
15. The Devil's Cloth: A History of Stripes by Michel Pastoureaut
16. How to Be a Pope: What to Do and Where to Go Once You're in the Vatican by Piers Marchant
17. How to Read a Book by Mortimer J. Adler and Charles Van Doren

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How To Feel Sexy

Look at your self in the mirror and say "Hi gorgeous!"

If you can't bring yourself to do that because you feel too ugly, wrinkly, fat, unkempt take immediate action that will fix it. Brush your hair, apply red lipstick, put mascara on. Pinch your cheeks. Then look at yourself again, and say, "not so bad considering I've been ignoring you." Make a vow to love and take care of you - say it whilst you stare deeply into your eyes.

Smile at every body you meet. You'll get lots of smiles back.

Be friendly to every one even those people you don't like. The reaction you get from them will be priceless.

Flirt, don't worry about any thing. Flirting will create extra ordinary responses from men - it'll make you feel good. Flirting is a fun way of showing that you are playful and responsive. Men love it. The thing here is that when you're having a rapport you can feel good even if you think you're ugly, fat or what ever. If you just let the communication happen and stop worrying about what the other person is thinking about you. Have you ever considered that they may be worrying about what you think of them?

Lay off the coffee and sugary drinks.

These are passion killers - they lift you up briefly but you'll come plopping back down. When you're down it's difficult to communicate. And not only that - being down gives you all those unsexy thoughts like: why am I so fat?, why can't I be so...? Bla bla. Rather stay in one good feeling place then go from down to up and then down again.

Eat sexy food.

For me sexy food means food that is still in it's original form. Fresh fruit and vegetables. If you believe that fresh food is causing you stomach problems then find out which ones you should mix and match. I promise you real food beats any processed or canned food.

Chocolate bars, cakes and candies are bad for you but you know that already don't you? Chocolates are only sexy when they've been specially chosen by some one special and then gifted to you. It's sexy and fun to eat gifted chocolates especially together with the bearer of the gift. It's also a grand idea to gift some body with special pralines.

Check out your wardrobe.

Are you wearing any old thing? Wearing any old thing is fine if you feel good in it but if deep inside you that any old thing is making you feel not as good as you could be go change immediately. I'm always surprised that women save their special clothes for special occasions. Every minute you are still breathing and partaking of life is special. I for one don't have special clothes I love them all and wear them all. For gardening I wear my old variation of my once new clothes.

A good tip is to wear clothes that sit well and are comfortable. If you garments are uncomfortable you'll be self conscious. For example I don't wear mini skirts or dresses because when I sit down I find I'm pulling on them to try and cover up.

Wear shoes that you can master and feel good in. No use wearing high heels that you can't walk in or give you pain - it'll distract and make you conscious of your feet instead of allowing you to be a free spirit.

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Become a student of your spouse's sexual zones.

One episode of the sitcom Friends dealt with the different erogenous zones. The characters were discussing sex outside the context of marriage, which, of course, we don't condone. However, the scriptwriters made an interesting point about males and females. Monica and Rachel identified seven erogenous zones. Chandler said, "You're kidding. I thought there were four." One of the women replied, "See, that's your problem. You go one, two, four. You're missing three, five, six. Oh! And toes! Seven."

A woman has more erogenous zones than just her breasts and vagina. Explore with her, and discover where she's most responsive. Kiss, stroke, or caress each body part. Ask, "How does this feel? Does it make you tingle? What would make you feel even more tingly—if I caressed less or more?" Remember that although it's good to work toward climax, the journey is pretty unbelievable too.

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